In fact, the Long Haul is going to cost us something

Guess I’m on a roll.

Couple days ago, an article sparked me to write about the gaping hole in the pro-life movement. If you’re going to declare yourself an advocate for LIFE, then you’d better be prepared for what that’s going to cost you.

It’s not fashionable in America right now to speak of inconvenient truths.

Like the way the Gospel calls us to care for widows and orphans, and to take up for the oppressed, the immigrant, the poor, even the person who has no voice or advocate.

Instead, it’s cool to be all Tea Party and “responsible” and strip people of benefits just when they most need them. Welfare spending is at an all-time low, despite the Great Recession grinding family income down to barely livable levels. Bonus points if you’re attacking poor women on welfare, because those ladies exist to do nothing but birth babies and laugh in the face of taxpayers. (Please tell me you caught the sarcastic edge there.) (Actual demographics for TANF [formerly “welfare”] recipients these days.)

I’m getting distracted.

It’s really expensive to be poor.

1. I know a single mom who is stuck between having no money and losing what little financial assistance she can get if she’s lucky enough to find a job (which isn’t going to happen in this economy if all you have is a high school diploma). When a single parent goes to work, she receives fewer benefits – what little is available to families from the social welfare system. So if a full-time worker at a minimum-wage job (5 days a week, 52 weeks a year) earns barely $19,000 – how is a family supposed to make it out of poverty? How is mom supposed to juggle full-time work and a lack of child care?

2. We know some people who don’t have a car or any way to get one.  Remember that point about how expensive it is to be poor? (Did you read the article? At least go skim the first page…..I’ll wait)  If you don’t have money to afford to save money, and if you live here in Anderson where public transportation is a joke, how do you get around without a car?

3. I know a young lady who’s probably going to be homeless in a few weeks, barring some awesome miracles. She has no car, so she needs to live within a mile or so of where she works. It’s a minimum wage job and she’s not working a lot of hours, so there’s absolutely no money for rent. Got a suggestion for her?

4. Food stamps don’t provide enough food for a family. If you’re not giving food regularly to families you know who are in a tough financial position, they’re probably dealing with hunger or food insecurity (not knowing whether you’ll have enough food for the day/week/month).  I urge you to donate regularly to shelters, food pantries, and other food ministries like Anderson Interfaith Ministries.  And please don’t assume that it’s easy for people in need to get to a food pantry when it’s open. Or that families with food allergies can actually use the food available there, because often it’s boxed or canned and full of allergins.

4b. Better yet, plant a garden in your backyard and donate half of it to people who need it.  I’ll happily give you my address – we know folks who love fresh vegetables but struggle to afford them.  The Generous Garden Project offers tips & resources.

What’s missing in all of these stories?  Social capital. Resources. The network of people who help you make it when times get tough.

For the past year, my husband and I have had no choice but to rely on God’s good grace expressed through the love and wallets of His people to pay our bills each month while he’s been unemployed and in grad school. (The unemployment has lasted a lot longer than we’d expected / hoped.)

It’s not to diminish God’s provision at all to note that we usually get help from people who already know us, or by means of our education and professional experience (which led to first my job, now my husband’s, plus multiple freelancing opportunities throughout the past year).

The “system” has nothing to offer the person who’s cut off from a community who cares, who lacks the social network of aid.

The Chalmers Center, connected to Covenant College, does a lot of work with economic development and poverty both in the US and abroad. I heard one of their staff members speak last fall, Andy Jones. He defined poverty basically as being stripped of any meaningful relationships.

Put simply, when you’re poor, it’s not so much that you lack money. It’s that no one gives a damn. 

The Gospel calls us to change that, and it’s going to take much, much more than money. Giving money is easy. Coming alongside someone in the midst of their mess — thats going to really cost you something.

All of the situations listed above are real.  If you have a working, reliable car to donate, money for the family who needs a house and the money to afford living in it, a lead for an apartment on Clemson Blvd, or other resources for the people I’ve mentioned, leave a comment on this post or message me on Facebook.

If you want to give financial support to a ministry in our county that does incredible work for people in need, I recommend AIM, Safe Harbor, Under His Wings/Haven of Rest, and Calvary Home for Children.  They’re worth their weight in gold….more importantly, they really do need “gold” to get their work done.

5 thoughts on “In fact, the Long Haul is going to cost us something”

  1. Good post. I like how you gave solutions, not just describe the problem. I’m not on facebook, but would be interested in giving toward your friend who needs a car. You can dm me your address @joellindstrom on twitter.

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  2. Again, I agree with this sentiment for the most part. My question is still about redemption of the full person. Is it good enough to help financially and emotionally? I’m not saying that finances aren’t a problem and that helping financially isn’t a must, but I’ve seen multiple forms of helping the poor and most are terrible. However, I have never seen a system more successful than L2, the church I attend here in Denver.

    There is a large level of financial support, but it is still limited and it is not how we get the poor off of the streets and into a life redefined (at least a tenth of our congregation used to be homeless and are now holding down great jobs and building families). At the core of the success at L2 is the free counseling and mentorship to those outside of our church. The premise is not trying to make people feel guilty for decisions, but to point them to themselves… who God created them to be. We find their strengths, weaknesses and personality types and lead them into the definition of and person they were designed to be. We focus on encouragement, but ownership of mistakes as well. Sympathy with answers. Love with honesty.

    If we are not seeking to redeem (not necessarily salvation… bigger concept here) the whole person and show them the “them” they were created to be, we will simply be enablers.

    I love your call to commitment. I think that is key. But, more than any of this, there needs to be a proper thinking among those who “help,” mentor or financially support the poor.

    There are a lot of people that I want to keep away from the poor. They are destructive, unwise and lacking in truth. I want to see, and I think the answer is, people who care, but who are wise. The ones that can give in more ways than just finances. I say this as someone who would have given up on ever being successful at anything, despised myself and who would have lost everything had I not been given the counseling and wisdom, coupled with the financial help that L2 gave me when I was jobless for 6 months (in the form of construction work).

    These girls are the most vulnerable and the most open to perverse or destructive “help.” I just think we need to define what “help” looks like better. I think it needs to go much farther than finances (and I would also say that finances are the least of the answers in the end… but a NECESSARY start to solving the problem).

    Not sure if any of that makes sense. I just see financial support as 1/10 of the ultimate solution. It’s good to give money… It’s better to give a complete life, mind and heart redemption that ultimately produces confidence and shalom and gives that person the power to move forward and find success in any circumstance.

    Hope this makes sense.

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    1. this is fantastic, Mark, and more of what I expected you to say. 😉

      Absolutely “help” has to be more than finances. Everybody I’ve mentioned in this post is personally connected to us, so there’s a relationship here.

      Money has to be a part of the solution because you can’t just barter your way through your car insurance payment in America. 🙂 But absolutely, true “help” restores someone as a full human, able to flourish in God’s creation.

      Go to the Chalmers Center link (at Covenant College) and do some reading. It’s a great organization.

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  3. I should add, that you and Coart ARE a prime example of the type of people that SHOULD help the poor. You have the love and wisdom it takes to build people up and to make them feel they are worthy. You show them truth and peace and you give all that you have. That is a very RARE… RARE quality.

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