The crux of the issue between pro-life and pro-choice is this: Do women have viable options when they are confronted by an unplanned pregnancy?
It’s really hip and sexy in Christianity to be pro-life. Hey, that’s cool. I’m all about life. I think cutting unborn babies into body parts and hauling them out a woman’s uterus is pretty barbaric.
But most of the people fighting abortion look pretty well-off, all told. They come out of at least a working-class life, with opportunities to get an education, a good-paying job, and a house in a decent neighborhood.
And what do we know of true poverty?
When I posted an article about a friendlier, more gracious anti-abortion trend in Dallas on my Facebook feed to spark discussion (what else is Facebook for, right?), a friend of mine posted this immediately:
When [our 3 year old daughter] was born 6 weeks early, we were in the hospital for 10 days, and I met a 17 year old mom there who had been kicked out of her parents’ house for getting pregnant. Since then we have stayed in touch and become friends. She went to the local crisis pregnancy center where she was convinced not to abort her child, and these well meaning ladies promised her help once she had the baby.
Well, they brought her a gift basket and told her she could come pick up diapers any time she needed them, and that was it. That was the help.
She felt very misled. She has struggled since, dropped out of school, and needs constant financial help and help sorting out the complexity of government support. She loves her little boy, but she certainly needs more than diapers to make it.
I guess what I am saying is that I think it is time for the Pro-life movement to take more of an active interest in the entire life of the child, especially those children lost in the foster system.
The children’s defense fund website says there are 4,485 kids in foster care in South Carolina. According to the Southern Baptist Convention there are 1,878 Southern Baptist churches in South Carolina. That’s about 2.3 kids per congregation. If these numbers are correct, that’s pretty do-able, right?
It’s not good enough, my fellow Christians, to rescue babies. When you save a life, you’re tied in now. You can’t just walk away. This is your problem. Your responsibility.
If the Church in America wants to step up and prevent abortion, that’s awesome.
But where’s the next 18 years of help coming from?
More than diapers, these ladies need mentors, financial aid (for years), low-cost but dependable and good-quality child care options so moms can still work, advice on building positive relationships with men who will actually love & support them, help with mothering if this is the first child, sometimes housing, and assistance in navigating “the system” since WIC and SNAP (food stamps) do help.
So, pro-life folks: Where are you going to start?
Tomorrow, I think I’ll rant for a bit about resources available to young adults….
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